The Ex-Wife/Husband Page

GoodSpeak · August-4th-2005, 11:28 PM

Been married before?

Yeah.

Me too.

Here's the place to vent, to rail, to tell the real story.

Mine?

Well...the Roilling Stones said it best:

IT'S ALL OVER NOW

Well, baby used to stay out all night long
She made me cry, she done me wrong
She hurt my eyes open, that’s no lie
Tables turn and now her turn to cry

Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now
Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now

Well, she used to run around with every man in town
She spent all my money, playing her high class game
She put me out, it was a pity how I cried
Tables turn and now her turn to cry

Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now
Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now

Well, I used to walk in the morning, get my breakfast in bed
When I’d gotten worried she’d ease my aching head
But now she’s here and there, with every man in town
Still trying to take me for that same old clown

Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now
Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now
Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now
Because I used to love her, but it’s all over now

What's your story?

kenny weir · August-4th-2005, 11:34 PM

Geez, don't even get me started ...

GoodSpeak · August-4th-2005, 11:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kenny weir

Geez, don't even get me started ...

Oh, c'mon.

I shared.

You can do it too, Kenny.

Maybe it will free you or maybe it will free somebody else. Who knows?

Take a chance, huh?

jazzy mary · August-5th-2005, 11:23 AM

I'm scared to tell my story.

rollhead · August-5th-2005, 11:33 AM

Been blissfully married to the same woman for 23 years.

jazzy mary · August-5th-2005, 11:37 AM

rollhead, pls. read the thread title!

rollhead · August-5th-2005, 11:38 AM

what if I put "blissfully" in quotes?

jesus marion joseph · August-5th-2005, 11:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rollhead

what if I put "blissfully" in quotes?

I celebrated 10 years of marriage in June. We joke that it's been four years of blissful marriage!

About 20 years ago I was engaged to another woman, but we broke it off just before the wedding. I was about 20 or so at the time, and I remember sitting at a typewriter with a six pack and banging out un-invites to all of my family and friends that I had invited. Humorous in retrospect, traumatic at the time.

August-5th-2005, 11:49 AM

18 years with the same lucky lady.

Of course, you losers already knew that. Sorry to rub it in.

Brian Olewnick · August-5th-2005, 11:56 AM

26 years in September. Ya gotta pick right!

August-5th-2005, 11:58 AM

You either find the right one early, or wait until the right one
finally comes along. 4 years next month, what a great wife/life I have.

Rob C · August-5th-2005, 12:13 PM

Speaking as someone who recently got separated, I think you blissful fuckers are missing the point of this thread.

August-5th-2005, 12:14 PM

No we're not.

August-5th-2005, 12:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pain and suffering

About 20 years ago I was engaged to another woman, but we broke it off just before the wedding. I was about 20 or so at the time

Found out about your day job, did she?

Noj · August-5th-2005, 12:34 PM

For the opposite end of the spectrum, I am a man making my 30th trip around the sun who has never had a meaningful, lasting relationship with a woman. I've had short, physical relationships, few and far between. Many things come easy to me, just not women.

It is irritating to me how many people who do have established relationships frown on those who don't, and are often very condescending toward me about my situation. I wonder if they appreciate what they've got.

August-5th-2005, 12:40 PM

It's the hat, brother. Trust me on this one.

Noj · August-5th-2005, 12:46 PM

Hahaha! Damned backwards hat, it never occurred to me. I just took it off and the little redhead hottie down the way started eyeing me.

Anyway, I'll be interested to read anyone's stories. Always trying to learn.

Al in NYC · August-5th-2005, 12:48 PM

15 years of marriage gone up in flames. Yeech. Don't really want to talk about it anymore (it's been over a year and life does go on...) except to say that it sure wasn't my dumbass idea to undo it.

Unlike Noj, all I ever seem to have are "meaningful" relationships with women (for some reason I've never been able to master the casual relationship trick). My relations with women seem to become "meaningful" almost immediately, and therefore almost immediately fraught with stupid drama and tension.

Gentle Giant · August-5th-2005, 12:52 PM

I can say in all honesty that a couple of years ago, my wife could very easily have been my ex-wife. We did a little over a year of couples therapy, but it didn't do any good. Eventually, somehow we found a way to deal with each other more respectfully and healthily, and our relationship this past 10 months or so is the best it's ever been since the glory days of courtship, when no one ever fought about sex or fixing the front step, or who's going to stay home with the sick child.

No question, marriage is the toughest journey you can take, and I don't judge anyone who finds it best to switch horses in midstream.

frankenmeister7 · August-5th-2005, 02:10 PM

i had the worst marriage of all. going from being a city gal to a country mountain bum-kin. did i say that was me, i mean i took on the manners of my ex.

i was all of seventeen and went straight to Helena, Montana. maybe it was hell.

beautiful Montana and the yuk, yuk, yuk of such an a-hole.
didn't last more than a year.

but why dwell on the past hurts.

i had been living with my man (Sammy) for ten years and got married in 97' Dec. 24 and have six kids.

i have had eighteen wonderful years with the best man a woman could ever have. two sets of twins, Jadie and step-son Jack.

i hope more wonderful years to come with my guy and to see my grandchildren like my great-grandmother, grandmother and mom.

jazzy mary · August-5th-2005, 03:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rob C

Speaking as someone who recently got separated, I think you blissful fuckers are missing the point of this thread.

Amen to that!

Rob C · August-5th-2005, 03:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jazzy mary

Amen to that!

Seriously. Somebody start a cancer thread so people can post about how they're fit as a fiddle.

August-5th-2005, 03:54 PM

Oh Rob, please.

Let's not get too dramatic here.

Rob C · August-5th-2005, 04:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Scott Dolan

Oh Rob, please.

Let's not get too dramatic here.

That did come out a little petulant.

jesus marion joseph · August-5th-2005, 04:05 PM

Okay, Rob (and Dolan, too). A little sadness, just for you.

The other woman I was engaged to was a woman whom I met at work, for whom I was a "rebound" relationship, and who got pregnant very shortly after we started dating. She was an engineering student at the time, and had to drop out of school because of the pregnancy. That was very traumatic for her and her family, as it had been a big deal when she was accepted. Additionally, she had previously gotten pregnant with the "other guy" (also an engineering student) and had an abortion, and didn't want to do that again. So we decided to get married.

Unfortunately, she had a miscarriage, which was also extremely traumatic, physically and psychologically. Some time after she had recovered from that fiasco, she decided to call the wedding off, which was very traumatic for me. We saw each other off and on (no pun intended) for a few years after that, but drifted apart when both of us decided to go back to school.

I got an email from her about a year ago, out of the blue, and she lives in southern Maine, has three kids, and is a plastics engineer. Meanwhile, I'm stuck in a loving relationship with my wife.

You're welcome.