fathers day

gonzo · June-18th-2006, 04:53 AM

is a melancholy day for me since my father died in 2001. being that as it is, happy fathers day those of you JCers who are fathers.

Gentle Giant · June-19th-2006, 08:02 AM

Thanks. I had a wonderful day. Did you visit your father's grave? My sister's visit my mom's on Mother's Day but I've always felt like I'm visiting her in my heart every day, anyway.

We went to Plum Island in Newburport, where the waves were so strong they tossing my 220-pound frame all over the shore. Had sand in every conceivable orifice.

tippy · June-19th-2006, 09:27 AM

Gonzo, sorry for your melancholy.

And also sorry for having missed the opportunity to wish all the great Dads at JC a Happy Father's Day!!

Doc Martin · June-19th-2006, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by gonzo

is a melancholy day for me since my father died in 2001. being that as it is, happy fathers day those of you JCers who are fathers.

Yea, Fathers Day is "bitter sweet" for me too.....so it goes.

Gary Sisco · June-19th-2006, 09:58 AM

Me, too. My old man died 2.5 years ago. Still missing him daily. Still have the little remembrance deal I made the day of his funeral on top of a music shelf -- his picture, his watch, the brass from the one live round fired by the color guard.

Doc Martin · June-19th-2006, 10:33 AM

No one can deny that becoming a dad is a life-changing experience. Despite an increase in sleepless nights and newly acquired diaper changing duties, most would agree that it's a deeply enriching and positive one.

New findings by brain researcher Kelly Lambert, professor and chair of the psychology department at Randolph-Macon College, suggest that fatherhood may change more than just a man's lifestyle – it may actually cause lasting benefits in his brain.

Link to article http://www.sciencentral.com/articles...e_id=218392808

patricia · June-19th-2006, 10:34 AM

I know what you mean, Gary. My dad was my biggest booster, my best friend. I am an only girl, with three brothers.
Dad died seven years ago and I still have to remind myself that he's gone. It's illogical that I should feel he didn't have enough time. He was ninety-two.
But, Dad never was "old" in that he was always curious, always ready to try something new, always quietly funny. He grew a mustache for the first time in his eighties.
He had an amazing jazz collection which he kept in a locked cupboard, to protect them from us, and had seen many of the greats of the twenties, thirties and forties perform live. I miss him still and always will.

Chris D · June-19th-2006, 10:37 AM

My old man died six years ago, and I can still hear his voice echoing in my brain.

On the plus side, I was treated to a bloody Mary and burger, along with copious hugs and kisses, topped off with me pitching some BP down at the park.

Enforcer · June-19th-2006, 10:39 AM

Had a nice one myself, just me and my daughter. Played a little catch in the yard, went out for a nice lunch and just kind of enjoyed a lazy day. Good times.

Jimmy Cantiello · June-19th-2006, 11:15 AM

My daughter and son-in-law took Joanne and I to a local winery where we enjoyed a picnic lunch, some live Jazz, and a beautiful day.

Thanks, Dana and Eric....................

Brian Olewnick · June-19th-2006, 11:28 AM

Sent my Dad a 6-pound slab of marbled halvah. He was both amused and gratified. Mom, otoh, was horrified...

Monte Smith · June-19th-2006, 11:31 AM

I received a wonderful card from Gungadar and Fulgencia Maeve Myfanwy. When I asked where my gift was, my darling wife reminded me that downstairs there was a needless expense in the form of a Victor Victrola that I was welcome to crank on Father's Day and on my birthday, as well. But my real gift was being left alone to watch the World Cup...priceless. I later phoned my father who was also left alone to watch the World Cup.

Uli · June-19th-2006, 11:40 AM

We were treated to a little lunch/dinner by the kids. Nice day.

clinthopson · June-19th-2006, 12:01 PM

All the local kids and grandkids met us at the little zoo in Santa Ana for our annual picnic. The kids had a blast looking at the critters, riding the elephant and getting their faces painted.

Talked to my two sons on the East Coast.

Nice day.

Ron Thorne · June-19th-2006, 02:37 PM

I also had a nice day yesterday.

We began with a combination Father's Day/Pre-Birthday lunch at the Glacier Brewhouse with Patti's parents. Tomorrow is Patti's birthday, and she was actually born on Father's Day, so . . .

Later, our daughter, son-in-law and their two children came by for a visit and homemade subs and drinks. Then, as they were leaving, we received a phone call from our two sons in California with good wishes. I got some good hugs and kisses from my wife, in-laws and two of my three grandchildren. Priceless.

This will be a busy, fun-filled few weeks, beginning with birthday celebrations tomorrow, and our oldest son, wife and son arriving this weekend for a two week stay.

Brian Olewnick · June-19th-2006, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Brian Olewnick

Sent my Dad a 6-pound slab of marbled halvah. He was both amused and gratified. Mom, otoh, was horrified...

So, my little brother calls me up:

"Yeah, Jill [wife] and I went up to see Dad yesterday. We figured we'd bring him a bit of his favorite sweet, so we brought up a normal sized piece of halvah. Thanks a lot."

nyuk-nyuk...

sonic1 · June-19th-2006, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by gonzo

is a melancholy day for me since my father died in 2001. being that as it is, happy fathers day those of you JCers who are fathers.

Thanks. This is a crappy fathers day for me, since I am in the midst of a divorce. On mothers day, even when we were in total conflict, I helped our kids by presents for her, and had them make cards and even took her out to dinner. My wife totally flaked and let it slip by without mention. My daughter however remembered and told me she was going to take me out for icecream.

GoodSpeak · June-19th-2006, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by gonzo

is a melancholy day for me since my father died in 2001. being that as it is, happy fathers day those of you JCers who are fathers.

Very sorry for your loss, Gonzo.

I am happy because I am a father.

kedoane · June-19th-2006, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by sonic1

Thanks. This is a crappy fathers day for me, since I am in the midst of a divorce. On mothers day, even when we were in total conflict, I helped our kids by presents for her, and had them make cards and even took her out to dinner. My wife totally flaked and let it slip by without mention. My daughter however remembered and told me she was going to take me out for icecream.

Hugs to you, Sonic

kedoane · June-19th-2006, 11:34 PM

I have lost my father 22 years ago and I wish that he was around to see me graduate out of high school and college and to see me marry a wonderful man. My mom saw all of that, but with her illness, she may not remember these things.

Gentle Giant · June-20th-2006, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by sonic1

Thanks. This is a crappy fathers day for me, since I am in the midst of a divorce. On mothers day, even when we were in total conflict, I helped our kids by presents for her, and had them make cards and even took her out to dinner. My wife totally flaked and let it slip by without mention. My daughter however remembered and told me she was going to take me out for icecream.

That's gonna be one sweet dish of ice cream. Enjoy it.

rollhead · June-20th-2006, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by kedoane

I have lost my father 22 years ago and I wish that he was around to see me graduate out of high school and college and to see me marry a wonderful man. My mom saw all of that, but with her illness, she may not remember these things.

Hi, kedoane. I lost my father 24 years ago last month. I feel the same. I wish he had seen my kids. Even more so, I wish my kids had had the experience of meeting him.

Lenny D.Guitarist · June-20th-2006, 12:06 PM

My father died 10 years ago, one week before Fathers' Day. He was in a hospital in and out of consciousness the last week of his life. Everyday I would bring in a boom box and play his favorite musician's songs for him, mostly Chet Atkins. On the day before he died, I borrowed an acoustic guitar from a musical therapist at the hospital and played the very songs he heard on the boom box... Chet Atkins' "Sails", "Why Worry", "I Still Can't Say Goodbye", "Imagine", etc. After about 30 minutes of playing, I stopped and asked him what he thought. Bittersweet to the end, he said something like...
"That was nice. You're a good musician, but you're no Chet Atkins." He died peacefully the next day.

This year I spent the day playing tennis with my family and enjoyed an excellent Italian dinner with them. For the tenth year, I played those Chet Atkins' songs on the first guitar I ever bought, a $69.95 Harmony acoustic, and ..."I Still Can't Say Goodbye." Hope all of you fathers had a great Fathers' Day.

Lenny D.Guitarist · June-22nd-2006, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by sonic1

Thanks. This is a crappy fathers day for me, since I am in the midst of a divorce. On mothers day, even when we were in total conflict, I helped our kids by presents for her, and had them make cards and even took her out to dinner. My wife totally flaked and let it slip by without mention. My daughter however remembered and told me she was going to take me out for icecream.

Hope the next chapter of your life is filled with happiness and peace.

Gary Sisco · June-22nd-2006, 08:20 AM

Every day something happens or I hear something that I know would crack up the old man and I remind myself to give him a call to tell him. And then I remember that that won't be happening again. It all happens in less than a second but it stops me right in my tracks.

He'd have loved our colt and the puppies. He loved our beloved Ridgebacks, and the last conversation we had, not very long before he died, he told me he worried that the dogs would forget him. I assured him that that wouldn't happen and it didn't. They never adjusted to his car arriving without him. They'd always be watching and waiting for him to get out of the car. There was no way that he or I could have known they'd survive him by only half a year.

patricia · June-22nd-2006, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Lenny D.Guitarist

"That was nice. You're a good musician, but you're no Chet Atkins." He died peacefully the next day.

I smiled when I read that, Lenny. Isn't it interesting that our dads, no matter how good we get at what we do, can still see room for improvement?
My dad was the same. If I wanted my ego deflated, I would talk to my dad and he would always give me credit for being pretty good at what I do. But, I remember him comparing me to Beaton and Horst and finding me wanting.
It's their way of preventing us from getting a big head.

Gary Sisco · June-22nd-2006, 09:05 AM

I read it as a sardonic joke.

The day my father died, we were still telling jokes and stories. I told him that Bronwyn and I had a million-dollar idea for manufacturing a belly bra for all the big-belly men walking around with a foot of flab hanging over their belts. Our sales slogan would be "See your dick again!" My father, who had a large beer gut as an old man, got a kick out of it and said, "I haven't seen mine in quite a while."

patricia · June-22nd-2006, 09:47 AM

You know, the thing I remember about my dad in his later years was that he still appreciated the ladies and they him. The funniest thing he did that I remember is that he grew a mustache for the first time in his eighties because he had always wanted one.
Dad was always very courtly and my women friends were charmed by him. They said he always made them feel beautiful.
He wouldn't tolerate swearing in mixed company. My three brothers still don't swear if there are women around. I can see influences of my father in all three of my brothers that I'm sure even they are unaware they have inherited.

sonic1 · June-22nd-2006, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Lenny D.Guitarist

Hope the next chapter of your life is filled with happiness and peace.

Thanks Lenny. That is what I am aiming for. Of course nothing in the divorce is going to disrupt my fatherly duties and impulses. I am with my kids every day, homeschooling my kids, and soon they will spend weekend nights at my place. It is precious time spent which I would let nothing impede.

GoodSpeak · June-22nd-2006, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by sonic1

Thanks Lenny. That is what I am aiming for. Of course nothing in the divorce is going to disrupt my fatherly duties and impulses. I am with my kids every day, homeschooling my kids, and soon they will spend weekend nights at my place. It is precious time spent which I would let nothing impede.

I am so sorry to learn of this, Jared...I had no idea.

I want to apologize to you, here and now, for my own boorishness during an obviously rough time in your life. Our rather harsh exchanges back in January may have caused you undue difficulty and I am truly sorry if they did.

Just know many of us have been through a divorce [myself included] and you will find much support on this BBS as you adjust.

Go easy, my friend.