Father's Day article

[Hudson Boy]

Some good thoughts here. Being a non-parent, I have not been through what he's talking about, but I can understand his point of view. I don't agree with the religious part at the end, but as long as religous faith is separate from the state people are free to practice whatever they want.


THE GREATEST FATHER'S DAY GIFT
David R. Usher
June 18, 2005
NewsWithViews.com

Some of us will be sad for father’s day this year. Nobody knows the meaning of fatherhood more than divorced men, most of whom discovered too late that being a father is about a 50/50 proposition in this day of automated feminist divorce.

Hidden within this sadness is perhaps the greatest gift of all. Married men often take their place for granted, as their fathers did before. Many of us did that before we were served with divorces we did not expect, want or deserve.

We know better now. Fatherhood is an extremely important institution, one that we restore in our lifetimes. Why? Because there are so many of us now, and many second wives who are disgusted with the system too.

Folks often ask me how I can stand working in this movement for so long. They see it as being too painful to bear. Perhaps this was true until I realized this: This movement is an opportunity to grow, to learn how to play hardball politics, to organize, and to succeed.

Folks often ask my why I keep working on it eighteen years after my own unnecessary ejection from society. My resolve is as deep as ever, and my confidence far greater, because I have seen the changes that have taken place over the years.

The first time we testified in the Missouri Senate in 1989, they simply told us to go away. They couldn’t imagine why men would even be interested in social legislation. Today, they are disappointed if we don’t show up.

Here is the real reason I won’t ever retire: It is my duty to give to my children that which I could not have: the right to be a parent. And it is my duty to give to their children something children do not have now: the simple right to have a father.

Since my divorce left me with a lot of time on my hands, I have plenty of time to make sure this happens.

Misery is an optional illness on father’s day (and every other day too). Sure, we don’t like spending father’s day as non-fathers. Realize this: That you feel this way is proof that you are not one of those irresponsible bums that feminists howl about all the time. You are a good father, even if they won’t let you do it. Moral: take all that anger, energy, and free time, and turn it into the loving act of changing the system.

Some reading this article will be married men, or men who have not yet married. This article is perhaps the most important one you can read to prepare yourself for the future, and to change the future for yourself.

Most married men cannot imagine a divorce happening to them. The “D” word doesn’t register in their brains. Understand this: your chances of being turned into a childless father are nearly one in two. Do not make the mistake of thinking that you are the only good guy in the world and that divorce only happens to all those bad guys out there. Obviously, 50% of men are not bad guys -- perhaps 5% are. The other 45% are good fathers and husbands just like you who get a big surprise one day, and come screaming in the doors of the men’s movement wondering what happened – too late to change the future.

Here is what you can do if you are married or not yet married. Your future rests in restoring the value of marriage and fatherhood. The good groups in the men’s movement are there working to solidify your future.

The marriage movement is still predominantly run by RHINOS, such as David Blankenhorn and the Institute for American Values. These organizations say things that sound very pro-family, but in the end blame everything on men and push for more child support. This is what drives divorce and unmarried childbirth in the first place. This will change. Washington is realizing that these people have been hijacking healthy social progress for the past decade.

If you are a college student, get active on campus and secure equal rights for men by starting a men’s rights group. Call for establishment of a real men’s studies program which operates independently of the women’s studies program. Colleges should support equalitarian men’s rights groups, and allow them the same freedom of speech granted to women’s groups. It does not take many students to do this. All you have to do is be professional, be persistent, organize, and do it. If you want a real college education, there is no better education in political science, debate, psychology and law than to live it in-vivo.
If you have suitable economic resources, give all you can to credible men’s rights organizations. Men’s groups are severely hobbled because most divorced men don’t have one nickel to rub together. You can name any 501c3 men’s group on your United Way form, and allocate your gifts directly.

If you are a woman, you have a tremendous stake in the success of this movement. Divorce has left more women and children in poverty than any war in American history. Single mothers don’t “have it all”. They have to “do it all”. Many men helped women get the right to vote and to be in the workplace. Now, men need your help. Your dedicated work will make the lives of women and children happier, safer and securer in the future.

No matter what your status is, become active in politics. Work for candidates who support pro-family legislation, and oppose feminist candidates as if your children’s futures depended on it. Keep an eye on the legislature, and testify on at least two bills per session.

When government gets out of line, your best protection is in having someone with clout who will challenge the system on your behalf. The best protection of all is to change the law so you will not ever be put in the position already forced on about half of today’s fathers. Of course, the strongest form of advocacy is to be a member of the legislature and get your legislation passed.

Remember this: all men under the age of 45 were brought up in a feminist society which teaches men not to trust each other, but to trust only women. Feminism instilled perverse form of chivalry in men. Men used to open doors for women. Now they destroy other men for them, or at least look the other way while other men are being destroyed.

I did not invent this idea – it is part of feminist stratagem laid out 45 years ago to make it possible for women to undermine religion, deconstruct marriage and take over the family. Their goal was to destroy male kinship. They succeeded. We must extricate ourselves from these programmed instincts, and regain our trust in every man we know unless there is a clear reason not to trust him.

Priests, ministers, rabbis, and pastors must realize that we live in this relativist dark age because the major religions somehow turned their authority over marriage to feminists in government. The Church has primary authority over marriage and divorce, and should reclaim it both from the pulpit and at law.

Some are already working on this, and with some success. Others, such as Dr. James Dobson adamantly blame men for what feminists did to society and hold men responsible for it. This is the same false witness feminists have misused all along to take over marriage, family, and even religion, at the expense of men of faith. Let us urge Dr. Dobson to pray for an Awakening, or follow someone else who speaks with true wisdom.

Teachers of faith make a great mistake when they only offer comfort when a parishioner subject to a pending divorce comes for counseling. Each divorce is another opportunity for the Faiths to retake jurisdiction over marriage and protect it from the evil of secular meaninglessness. Each divorce is a call to social and religious action and teaching. Those who wish to restore the value of religion can do so by following the Words that make religion valuable. Perhaps the greatest gift of father’s day is knowing that we all value of fatherhood, and that we each can do something to give this gift to someone else. It is through giving that we receive. Let us realize the value of the gift of fatherhood, and do everything we can to pass it on for future generations.

© 2005 David Usher - All Rights Reserved

David R. Usher is Legislative Analyst for the American Coalition for Fathers and Children, Missouri Coalition And is a co-founder and past Secretary of the American Coalition for Fathers and Children

[Al in NYC]

What in the world is with this obsession you seem to have about divorce and child custody issues?

[Hudson Boy]

Originally Posted by Al in NYC

What in the world is with this obsession you seem to have about divorce and child custody issues?

I started one thread about it.

I feel for those children that are suffering because of the way the system is currently operating. It's very edifying to see that there are people addressing the problem.

[Ron Thorne]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

Remember this: all men under the age of 45 were brought up in a feminist society which teaches men not to trust each other, but to trust only women. Feminism instilled perverse form of chivalry in men. Men used to open doors for women. Now they destroy other men for them, or at least look the other way while other men are being destroyed.

I did not invent this idea – it is part of feminist stratagem laid out 45 years ago to make it possible for women to undermine religion, deconstruct marriage and take over the family. Their goal was to destroy male kinship. They succeeded. We must extricate ourselves from these programmed instincts, and regain our trust in every man we know unless there is a clear reason not to trust him.

Man, what a paranoid, ignorant, broad-brushed piece o' crap!

I truly feel sorry for David R. Usher and others of his ilk.

[cookie]

ooooh, women are scary! they are going to take over the world and then they will make us all eat our vegetables and behave.

[Daniel]

god this guy's annoying

[jesus marion joseph]

Originally Posted by cookie

ooooh, women are scary! they are going to take over the world and then they will make us all eat our vegetables and behave.

Nevar!!

[Gary Sisco]

Paranoid or merely misogynist? You decide.

These kinds of ravings explain a lot of others, however, on different threads.

They have meds, Hudson Boy. You might want to look into it.

[Al in NYC]

Originally Posted by cookie

ooooh, women are scary! they are going to take over the world and then they will make us all eat our vegetables and behave.

And shave our chests and cut off our wee-wees!

Originally Posted by gary sisco

These kinds of ravings explain a lot of others, however, on different threads.

He does always seem to come around to the same subject, regardless of the topic of the original thread.

[Rob C]

This guy sounds like such a prize, it's hard to imagine why his wife would have considered leaving him. But then he would probably never have founded The American Coalition for Keeping the Bitches in Line, so it all worked out.

[Sandi22]

We're always hearing from this group or those like it, like this article's author, and you too Hudson Boy, how women have destroyed so much. It's just not how it is. History proves you wrong.

It was when women were brought into early settlements, that they began to prosper and be a good place to be. Too much written about it being so, to have a few Johnny come lately's to try to rewrite history, and to blame the worlds woes on this latest hard time in history on women; blaming it on feminism; when it's been men calling the shots for such a long, long time.

This is so irrational as to be comical.

[Gary Sisco]

I've decided he's just a wacknut, plain and simple.

I can understand not wanting to use his real name over such screed, though, so there's some little part of him still functioning rationally.

[Daniel]

so far we've confirmed that hudson boy hates muslims, blacks and women. i wonder if he ever leaves his house

[Hudson Boy]

Originally Posted by Daniel

so far we've confirmed that hudson boy hates muslims, blacks and women. i wonder if he ever leaves his house

That "hatred" of certain people charge is a pretty serious accusation, and an outright lie.

I don't know where you reside, but I live in Brooklyn, and was just downtown this afternoon. There were about 3 whites in the streets of this area, including me. There are 150 different ethnic groups in my town. Don't hand be this "prejudice" line - if I didn't like diversity I'd move.

That article had some good points, and anybody with half a heart and some brains should realize that.

Next time, think a little bit before you get diarrhea of the keyboard.

[Sandi22]

It may have good points scattered here and there, however, it's mixed in with bigoted and oh woe is me, poor me, the I just don't matter in society bit. That gets old after two seconds.

Do a bit of editing and tell us what it is you yourself are thinking then, that is, if what we're saying about the article is off base. That's all. Blame games aren't doing a bit of good.

[Ron Thorne]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

That article had some good points, and anybody with half a heart and some brains should realize that.

Name one, and cite why you feel that it's a good/valid point.

[kenny weir]

I'm single. I have a family. I am a very good dad. This guy Usher is a nut job.

[Daniel]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

That "hatred" of certain people charge is a pretty serious accusation, and an outright lie.

I don't know where you reside, but I live in Brooklyn, and was just downtown this afternoon. There were about 3 whites in the streets of this area, including me. There are 150 different ethnic groups in my town. Don't hand be this "prejudice" line - if I didn't like diversity I'd move.

That article had some good points, and anybody with half a heart and some brains should realize that.

Next time, think a little bit before you get diarrhea of the keyboard.

hope you're willing to take your own advice

[Dan G]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

...There were about 3 whites in the streets of this area, including me...

Normal people don't notice this kind of thing.

[Gary Sisco]

Unless you're one of his kind, where normal means white and, apparently, male.

A vast female conspiracy is revealed.

[Hudson Boy]

Originally Posted by Gary Sisco

Unless you're one of his kind, where normal means white and, apparently, male.

A vast female conspiracy is revealed.

When radical feminism's house-males rely on responding with personal attacks, it leave a less-than-stellar impression of their cause on readers, and proves how little merit their case has.

The children that suffer as a result of backwards child-custody policies aren't laughing.

[cookie]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

When radical feminism's house-males rely on responding with personal attacks, it leave a less-than-stellar impression of their cause on readers, and proves how little merit their case has.

The children that suffer as a result of backwards child-custody policies aren't laughing.

House-males???

How freakin' offensive is that???

"Backward child custody policies" can be changed through legislation so get out there and work it out. Being anti-woman and anti-feminism probably won't get anybody too far, but knock yerself out. However, in these cases where men feel all agrieved over losing their fatherhood rights, many times a) they deserved to lose them because they would be a negative influence on the child or have threatened the mother or b) are concerned merely because their own sense of personal power is violated. There was a recent murder around here because a guy was upset because he didn't want his kids calling his ex's new man "Daddy." Nice reason for murder. That's an ego thing not a discrimination thing.

This is not to say that women don't manipulate courts, but I don't think feminism is the root cause of inequity in custody cases. If anything, it's the old *traditional* view that says women are the best care providers for children. Feminism should actually have the opposite effect on society by removing gender expectations. So instead of fighting feminism, maybe you should fight traditional expectations of family roles.

[Scott Dolan]

I've said for many years that my dream is to become a full time housewife.

[Ron Thorne]

Originally Posted by Scott Dolan

I've said for many years that my dream is to become a full time housewife.

Be careful what you wish for, Scott.

[Scott Dolan]

Hey, I'm one lazy son of a bitch. I'm willing to make some serious sacrifices.

[Sandi22]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

When radical feminism's house-males rely on responding with personal attacks, it leave a less-than-stellar impression of their cause on readers, and proves how little merit their case has.

The children that suffer as a result of backwards child-custody policies aren't laughing.

What kind of life you must have had to come off spouting such trash; such backward thinking trash.


I've seen attorney's paid off with the children going to violent abusive male parents, as they're usually the ones with the bank accounts or the wages to do it, and so your arguments against backwards child custody cases doesn't hold water, it's often times just the reverse.

[Ron Thorne]

Originally Posted by Hudson Boy

Being a non-parent, I have not been through what he's talking about, but I can understand his point of view.

I knew there was something redeeming and for which we can be thankful within this first post.

[kenny weir]

As a feminism-era dad, I have no doubt that feminism - whatever its many flaws and excesses - has helped make me a much better father than my own (he admitted to regretting his whole schtick before he died). By bloody miles. God rest his miserable, uptight, furious and troubled soul.

[Gary Sisco]

Scott -- That was good advice to be careful what you wish for. Sometimes we actually get it.

I've done it. I prefer doing the horsework. 'S make me a horsewife?

[Scott Dolan]

Actually, the first two years of Mr. Pootz life I was a somewhat stay at home daddy. I did work part time nights in Radiology, but the majority of my time was spent at home raising my boy. It was cool, but I was also glad when we finally put him in daycare and I went back to work full time.