Being Married is Totally Weird

After all the groovy high of well-wishing and partying and stuff, I now find I'm just sitting around, wondering, "what the hell do I do with the rest of my life now?"

At least I can get on my wife's health insurance plan now, after having not been covered for a coupla years.

Suppose now is a good time to apply to get the German equivalent of a high school diploma.

Employment prospects? Being semi-fluent in German (aside from mixing up a few articles here and there) yet lacking any higher education, I suppose I'm eminently qualified to flip burgers or scrub subway stations. Not to mention having made the ultimate career killing move of working for nothing but labor unions since leaving high school.

Help!

P.S. Yeah, I'm crazy about her. Really married up out of my habitus (cf. Bourdieu) with this one. Not to mention she actually tolerates me.

[Gentle Giant]

10 years down the road, weird will seem like a good thing. Congrats and remember, she's always right.

[Cem]

Congratulations, man! Good to see you around...

[Cem]

Originally Posted by Alex

Suppose now is a good time to apply to get the German equivalent of a high school diploma.

Employment prospects? Being semi-fluent in German (aside from mixing up a few articles here and there) yet lacking any higher education, I suppose I'm eminently qualified to flip burgers or scrub subway stations. Not to mention having made the ultimate career killing move of working for nothing but labor unions since leaving high school.

Help!

Don't waste time with a hs diploma. Move to Canada & work for a political party not afraid of unions ie. NDP.

[Douglas]

Originally Posted by Alex

After all the groovy high of well-wishing and partying and stuff, I now find I'm just sitting around, wondering, "what the hell do I do with the rest of my life now?"

Congratulations, Alex.

A couple of years after our wedding twins arrived. Time takes care of itself nowadays. If you plan on indulging in the same type of activities as we did as newly weds, get some sleep now.

[shrugs]

Probably not as weird as some of your new relatives.

Congrats!!

[Chris D]

Weird is much better than lonely. Good work, Alex, and I'd advise to go back to school while you can. Options tend to disappear over time.

[Jazzooo]

I've been nothing but lucky in love--my wife and I are actually close friends with most of the women I've had serious relationships with.

And yep--marriage is just one of those things. If you're good together, then you two can survive all of the inevitable ups and downs and swoops and swirls and missed cues and forgotten requests and regular old ego battles and disagreements...and still get back to the magic. A big part of success in my experience has been knowing when to let go and shut up, even if I'm sure I'm right. It ain't for sissies, let me tell you!

Not every relationship makes it, obviously. But if you're lucky enough to find the right person, it's the way to go. Life is too short and too long to live it without a partner at your side. Make her life great and it will come back to you in spades.

Way to go my friend.

My wife and I just celebrated our 17th anniversary last week.

[stonemonkts]

Originally Posted by Scott Dolan

Way to go my friend.

My wife and I just celebrated our 17th anniversary last week.

Dolan, did you get married when you were ten, or what?

Congratulations, Alex.

[Jazzzoline]

Originally Posted by Chris D

Weird is much better than lonely.

I don't agree with that statement. I prefer loneliness to weirdos. 300 %

[Monte Smith]

Bravo, Alex! Wish you both all the best, sincerely. Of course, I must now refer to Mrs. Alex as the Dictatorship of the Proletariat.

Originally Posted by stonemonkts

Dolan, did you get married when you were ten, or what?

Congratulations, Alex.

No, thats actually when we started dating. We moved in together once she graduated highschool(she's one year younger than I am)and married shortly thereafter. But we got married on the same exact date we started going out for a nice tidy continuum. So our anniversary date has always remained the same.

Besides brother, I AM almost 34.






























sheesh

[Captain Hate]

Twenny-nine years this August. Congratulations Alex; and best wishes for the future. Does she like eai??

[GoodSpeak]

Hey Alex, 'sup?

Congrats and I think, if I may be so bold, we can look forward to your wife mellowing yer ass out


Ask Monte if this is true...

[Brian Olewnick]

Good job, Alex! September will be 25 years for Linda and myself. Weirdness is only the half of it.

[GoodSpeak]

21 for me and Mrs. GoodSpeak in June...only seems like 50.


































Relax.


It's only a joke...I think.

[Gary Sisco]

Alex -- Congrats? I'm not married but Bronwyn and I have been together what will be ten years, come July. Still going strong. The only woman (so far) who's been able to handle me for more than three years. If you learn this lesson before you're 40, you'll be okay: Remember that the woman is always right, even if she's clearly wrong, and just do whatever the fuck it is she wants done or said. It's that or you'll never know peace in your own home. I'm telling you. That male domination stuff is bullshit. Ask any honest man who really run ting 'bout the gates. So far, since she was born in 1960, no one, male or female, adult or child, cop or civilian, has had the last word with Bronwyn -- and anyone who tries learns that right away. Serious, man. I've taken to calling her Col. Von Bronwyn, since we became farmers. (Sometimes I call her Miss De Spot). Our barn is more strack than most every quarters known by the likes of me, since basic training at least. Don't let the wheelchair fool ya. Her lash is long and sharp. But there's also, as in the British Royal Navy, a ready ration of grog, when all is said and done.

:-)

My mom and dad were together 50 years when the old man died this past fall. To my astonishment, when she began her eulogy at his memorial service, she announced that the secret to a long and happy marriage is "being able to tell each other to _____ off."

[RBS]

We're going on five years this up-and-coming May 13th!!!

We've had our share of battles, but there's much, much love between us. My worst day married is better than my best day single.

Congratulations, Alex!!!

[tippy]

Hey, congrats, Alex. Rest assured that single peeps ask themselves the same question and, in the absence of distraction, have time to ask it more often.

[Root Doctor]

Congrats, Alex. Finding a mate who'll tolerate you is no mean feat. Mine will have put up with me for 20 years this November.

[Boris Badenov]

My first wife died of eating poison mushrooms. My second wife died of a fractured skull.

She wouldn't eat her mushrooms.

[jesus marion joseph]

Is it me, or is everyone misspelling "wierd"?

That's "weird", isn't it?

Anyhoo, mrs. jmj and me will be celebrating our 9th anniversary in June. My niece is getting married that weekend.


Weird.

[jeff54]

Congratulations Alex, I also will be celebrating 20 years of marrage this year
(contraulations to you to Root).

The best advice I can give is this - marrage is a wonderful thing, just try not to let it interfere too much with your personal life.

[clinthopson]

The only thing wierd about my two marriages (20 years on the first and 22 currently) was those very wierd in-laws.

[Noj]

On the contrary, being married is totally normal.

Spending life alone is weird as hell.

[jesus marion joseph]

Here's something that's wierd about marriage that I've been meaning to post about for a while now.

As many of you know, Massachusetts has been thrust into the forefront of the "gay marriage" debate by virtue of a recent decision by the Supreme Judicial Court. All sorts of hell has broken out in the media, the state legislature, and the office of the governor. There is a very active and vocal movement afoot to guarantee rights to people who are gay to marry. By all appearances, May 17 will arrive and gay people will have the right to marry one another if they wish.

By happenstance, I know a fair number of gay and lesbian folks, most of whom are involved in relationships, some of which are long term. What I find interesting is that at least three lesbian couples I know of have gone through recent turmoil because one of the partners wants to get married after May 17 and the other doesn't. The arguments for and against that have been related to me sound very much like those advanced by heterosexual couples facing the thorny question of whether they should take their relationship to the next level. Actually, the main reason seems to be that in each case one of the partners has substantially larger assets than the other, and they are concerned about protecting those assets from divorce.

Anybody else have a similar experience?

[shrugs]

Main Entry: weird
Function: adjective
1 : of, relating to, or caused by witchcraft or the supernatural : MAGICAL
2 : of strange or extraordinary character : ODD, FANTASTIC
- weird·ly adverb
- weird·ness noun
synonyms WEIRD, EERIE, UNCANNY mean mysteriously strange or fantastic. WEIRD may imply an unearthly or supernatural strangeness or it may stress queerness or oddness . EERIE suggests an uneasy or fearful consciousness that mysterious and malign powers are at work . UNCANNY implies disquieting strangeness or mysteriousness .

[Dennis Gonzalez]

Going on 30 years...it's better than ever.

[Brian Olewnick]

Originally Posted by clinthopson

The only thing wierd about my two marriages (20 years on the first and 22 currently) was those very wierd in-laws.

Yeah, when asked about the subject by young acquaintances, my sage advice is: Marry an orphan.